22/4/26
- Apr 22
- 1 min read
Bought my first leather outfit last year for my 36th birthday! Over my thirties my body has changed a lot. I've gained roughly 20kgs, lost what was left of the hair on my head, and grown more elsewhere.
Growing up I was considered sensitive and feminine compared to the other schoolboys. I also grew up in a household with a lot of emotional and sometimes physical violence. Often, I didn't feel safe or emotionally cared for.
Through my adulthood I have learnt to care and tend to myself in the ways I was neglected as a kid. I know a lot of men in the queer community feel uncomfortable with being labelled 'Daddy'. Perhaps because they associate it meaning 'old' or because of familial ties.
For me, being a 'Daddy' means embodying attributes of strength, confidence, and love. When I wear this outfit I use it as a tool to bring those qualities in me forward. To care for myself and those around me.
We all have a 'Daddy' living inside us, have you met yours yet?
I think everyone could learn a little from you - especially if you have learned to know yourself, your limits, needs and desires. I think many people have a hard time with that, regardless of whether you are gay - straight, or something in between. Personally, I have always (or at least since I became an adult) rested in my sexuality, but have had a hard time getting the needs I have met (I am polyamorous with my husband, we just need a woman who fits our home). What I find most difficult is the changes that come with getting older - I will soon be 30 and look completely different than when I met my husband, especially after 2…